Addison Chen and I have been together for four years ever since that fateful first date on July 20, 2017! We went to celebrate our four year anniversary in Chicago this year! We also recorded a podcast episode reflecting, for both on our own accounts and moving forward! We’ve gone through a lot like living together, having cats together, and buying a condo together!
It’s a bit weird to be PROUD of not dating until later in life, but I am proud of it. As a career driven young woman, I made sure to love myself first and really know what I want and need. I wanted to make this video so others don’t have to feel pressured to be in a relationship and it’s okay to value yourself and career more now. While my peers have gone through flings, one night stands, and short term relationships, I’m still with my first and only boyfriend of 3+ years now. We even bought a condo in NYC and have three cats together!
EDIT: many people are saying 21 is not late and I 100% agree. It’s actually why I made the video in the first place! Some context is in college I knew wayyyyyyyy too many people who were constantly hooking up, swiping on tinder, dating around ALL for the sake of just having someone, not feeling left out or not feeling unwanted. Completely your choice if you decide to date around anyways, but this video is for those who are looking for a relationship for the wrong reasons like validation and peer pressure. I even knew someone who faked having a boyfriend because she didn’t want to seem left out. I was also speaking of my experience of everyone around me telling me I SHOULD be dating around even if it’s not serious and to “play around.” I didn’t like how they imposed their own ideals on me. This is what the video was for and I just wanted to reassure those who felt this way that it’s okay!
Continuing our conversation about friendships! I chat with my friends, Michelle N. Lam and Sally Chen, about how boys have affected our friendship. HOW SPICY! It’s pretty easy to get lost in the mix, but we talk about how exactly it affected our friendship and even our relationships – positively and negatively!